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Monday, May 12, 2008

"Don't you forget about me...."

This may well be the last post for a couple of weeks. We move this Friday and the pressure of packing is getting greater and I can have less excuse to be sat in the library.

Once the phone line is active at the new house my ISP say it could take up to 5 working days for our broadband to become active again. Once we're in a set-up and sorted I will be back like the proverbial bad penny but there won't be anything new here until at least the 20-somethingth of this month unless I just have to blog about something specific!

Catch you on the other side, you wonderful people, you!


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Blogger Z said ... (1:20 PM) : 

*Sits, waits, sighs*

Hope all goes well with the move, Steg.

 

Blogger Chicka said ... (2:04 PM) : 

*lights a candle for the vigil*

Hang in there Steg. You'll be back with us in short order.

 

Anonymous Thursday said ... (7:46 PM) : 

We'll be here!

 

Blogger Mephitis said ... (12:24 PM) : 

Hope the move goes smoothly and you're back on soon.

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (10:54 PM) : 

I am really impressed with your resolve. I would have ripped that computer open long ago. But I suck.

Can't wait for you to get back on line dude, but it looks like I'm going to have to, so I will.
Heh.
xx

 

Blogger I, still, ♥ the views said ... (6:32 PM) : 

hey steg

hope it all goes/went well

big hugs and lots of excellent karma for the new place

 

Blogger jas said ... (9:01 AM) : 

Still waiting to find out how it all went. I guess the silence means 'slowly'.

 

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Tuesday, May 06, 2008

You can't have your cake and eat it!

So. We have a new PC, contentedly sitting in its box.

There the contentment ends, I fear. The temptation to unpack it and set it up is almost overwhelming but I can (unfortunately) see the wisdom in not doing so until after we've moved. Roll on the 16th.....

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Blogger Chicka said ... (3:32 PM) : 

Don't do it! *Steee--eeeggggg*

I can hear it calling you! Don't do it! Hee hee.

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (10:25 PM) : 

The sixteenth? I would NEVER make it! Well, I wouldn't, I'd be all over that machine like a fly on a cupcake, and it would be the LAST thing I packed up. But then again, if my house were burning, and I were in the middle of a post, I'd probably be thinking, oh just one more paragraph...Do you reckon they have a computers anonymous support group anywhere? Course it would probably meet on line. Heh.

 

Blogger Z said ... (12:25 AM) : 

But don't you think you should just check it works okay?

 

Anonymous Thursday said ... (9:49 PM) : 

Oh, just open the bloody box Stegbeetle, open the bloody box.

 

Anonymous Kate said ... (3:36 PM) : 

I am tempted to say 'go on, you know you want to open it', but I won't.

Hope the move goes well! Don't forget to put the kettle at the top of a box - it's a bugger to have to dig through a load of stuff to find it at the other end.

 

Blogger Doris said ... (9:38 AM) : 

How exciting .... waiting until you move and then having the joys of opening treats like a new computer. Good on you for waiting though not sure I could!

 

Blogger Steg said ... (1:09 PM) : 

You're not helping, ladies!

 

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Friday, May 02, 2008

Just perfect...

So the computer has died. Just what I need with less than two weeks to go until we move!

We'd been talking about buying a new one after we're settled in at the new place but it looks now like we might be hitting the electrical superstores on Bank Holiday Monday looking for good deal. It'd be silly to buy one and unpack it for a week before having to pack it again so until the 16th, at least, I'll be confined to using the PCs in the local library. Apologies to anyone who mails and doesn't get get a reply or who comments and doesn't get any kind of acknowledgement.

Have started packing in earnest this morning, not having the distraction of a functioning PC!

Umm, think that's about it really. I don't have the time to sit in here contemplating the inscrutable riddle of the Universe and you really don't need to hear about my Interwebnet withdrawal symptoms.

Missing you all, though!


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Blogger Chicka said ... (3:05 PM) : 

Well there's a saying that I hear often. "New House, New Baby" (meaning when you move, you get pregnant, etc...)

Since that's not appropriate, how about New House, New PC? LOL!

Thanks for the heads up Steg, or I'd be worrying about you!

 

Blogger Z said ... (11:37 PM) : 

I still haven't caught up on reading blogs after a couple of weeks without a computer. And it's not easy to concentrate when using a public one. You have my sympathy. Good luck with the move, in case you don't have a chance to post again.

 

Blogger Becky said ... (7:45 AM) : 

Oh noes! Well, it had a good run, as computers go!

Hope you manage to get a new one soon.

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (10:56 PM) : 

Darn it, I know how that computer jones feels. Not good.

Our monitor, less than nine months old, bit the dust last Thursday and after trying to get it to work for two hours, I'm one obsessive old Irish hun, I finally broke down and bought a new one, since Sam was right in the middle of doing research for his homework when it went. I feel your pain, this darned new monitor cost me 160 bucks, and brother that hurt.

xx

 

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Tuesday, April 29, 2008

All Systems Go!

So it's definitely on. We have a completion date for the new house, have handed in a "termination of tenancy" notice and booked a removals company. Of course, it doesn't hurt that the gentleman who turned up from the removals company is an old school friend of mine!

So now we do the packing thing. Despite the fact that we've got lots of "stuff" I'm not too panicked about it (yet) and am confident that it won't entail too much grief. The biggest hurdle, I think, is going to be getting rid of the stuff that we don't want to take with us. The hiring of a skip may be required.

It's going to be strange. We've been here for about 8 years and got used to it. Being somewhere else in town is just going to be a little...weird.

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Blogger J.J said ... (8:32 PM) : 

Ah - good luck with that Steg.

I tagged you btw, but shall not be at all offended if you have rather more pressing things to attend to!

 

Anonymous Thursday said ... (7:30 AM) : 

Moving house is an exciting, worrying, energising, tiring exercise. You will have Far More Stuff than you think.

 

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Friday, April 25, 2008

Addiction and Affliction

I seem to have a new addiction. Old Jamaica Ginger Beer. I know it's got loads of sugar in it but it's just so Goddamned tasty! I blame Enid Blyton, myself. All those years of reading about the Famous Five having "lashings of Ginger beer" with everything obviously affected me.

I loved those stories. A simpler time and possibly all the better for it. Life today is too complicated for me sometimes. Or maybe I'm just getting old! I discovered yesterday that I just can't get excited about light fittings or kitchen bins that co-ordinate with the rest of the kitchen. A Dalek-shaped bin would float my boat a little more than one that blends in, I think. I always thought I was quite "in touch with my feminine side" but clearly that doesn't extend to home furnishings.

Horrifically, I appear to have picked up a bad case of "bloke" from somewhere!

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Blogger Doris said ... (4:49 PM) : 

First off, and let me get this out of the way ... I am a little jealous that you have moved and thinking about bins and we have yet to sell and move. Having said, I really am delighted for you. New times, a new way ahead ..... I hope you will all have some wonderful memories in the new house.

As for the bin link ... I was hoping it was going to lead to a real Dalek bin! Now that is food for thought .... we'd have one. Our electric bin with the light sensor that opened the lid was in the end, a gadget that just couldn't hack it. Maybe I washed it too often and the workings have rusted but bin lids do need to get properly sanitised so it can not be all my fault. So it is a groovy bin but maybe only a lifetime of a year? We still use it but manually.

Lashings of ginger beer! Oh yes, I'm with you there. Read the books and love the drink. I also read the Naughtiest Girl in the School stories and was surprised to see it up front in Waterstones the other day. And there was me thinking those wonderful adventures were as dead as a dodo. Maybe it is for an adult audience who read it first time round?

Sometimes being a "bloke" has its uses so don't give up on it. I do bloke too on occasion and that doesn't detract from my feminine side.

And yes, life is so much more complicated these days. For us all and especially the young. At least we knew a simpler time!

 

Blogger Steg said ... (10:50 AM) : 

Doris - don't be too jealous, we haven't moved yet!

 

Blogger jas said ... (12:32 PM) : 

Doesn't hurt to have a change occasionally. BTW I love ginger beer and haven't tried this one, I'll put some on next weeks list!
We haven't even sold yet either but it's maybe as well as we haven't finished the new place, it's been in state of limbo for the last 3 months.
After the radio post and now this one I'm positively yearning for a return to long ago and simpler times.

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (5:58 PM) : 

Just drink your ginger beer, smile at your wife and nod approval to anything she picks out and the problem is solved. Unless she's like me and can't make up HER mind. Then you are so screwed, hehe, kidding.

xx

 

Blogger Steg said ... (8:57 AM) : 

Jas - welcome to my yearning!

Lori - yep, got that one,ta! "Yes dear, it's lovely." ;)

 

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Wednesday, April 23, 2008

New Toy!

It's pathetic really. The little things that bring excitement into our lives.

As I may have mentioned before I have a Facebook presence. On logging into it today I was greeted with a new feature. They have installed a "chat" feature as standard, rather as one of the many and varied applications one can voluntarily add.

Consequently, I've been whiling the morning away by playing with it and chatting with friends who I wouldn't normally chat to, we not being on one another's MSN or Yahoo messengers.

It's new, obviously (duh!) and a few improvements spring to mind but it works and is fairly reliable, it seems.

I'd like to formally apologise here to anyone who I may have startled by "popping up" in a chat window when they weren't even aware that such a thing was possible! Of course, that's not to say that I won't do exactly the same thing again later. Or tomorrow. Or whenever.

As a very erudite person once said - "little things please little minds"!

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Blogger Doris said ... (3:37 PM) : 

LOL - great you have some amusement and diversion! Now here's another:

Offtopic
You have been tagged (it is on my blog) but I won't hold you to doing it! Though if you copied and pasted and just changed the bits that need changing it might be easy enough? xxx

 

Blogger I, still, ♥ the views said ... (12:47 PM) : 

I can't get the hang of FaceBook at all (as you might have noticed!) so if you do pop up and I don't pop back, it'll be because I haven't the faintest idea what's going on - not because I'm ignoring you

not pathetic in any way: I remember reading an article about David Attenborough and he was asked what he thought of people talking on mobile phones (the interviewer clearly expected some sort of derisory comment) and Sir David said that it's human nature to communicate - one of the things that makes us what we are as a species

(((((((((((((((you)))))))))))

(how's the move going?)

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (2:00 AM) : 

Heeeeeeeeeee! I love those little pop up typing talk thingies too! xx

 

Blogger Steg said ... (10:15 AM) : 

Doris - I still want to find time to do the "first and last sentences on page 123" thing!

I, still, ♥ the views - the move? I'll blog it soon!

Lori - you sound like you have a Facebook account....(hint,hint!)

 

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Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Just testing...

...the latest release of the Scribefire extension for Firefox.

Don't mind me. Kindly go about your business!

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Monday, April 21, 2008

Spirit Of Radio

I was talking to my Elder Daughter the other day about radio. Apparently "no-one listens to the radio anymore". This is patently not true; she just means that amongst her friends and contemporaries radio is less popular. I find this depressing, possibly because radio has always been part of my life.

It will have started back in 1970's. Dad used to work shifts and Mum worked part-time in the mornings. If dad had been on "nights" and needed to get to bed or was on "earlies" then as Mum went for the bus to work she'd drop me at my grandparents who only lived a few doors away. Nan would invariably have the radio on. BBC radio 2, I believe, although she still referred to it as "the Light Programme". I can clearly remember both Sam Costa and Pete Murray being on although none of the music that they played has stayed with me.

Once I started school I remember getting ready to Terry Wogan in the mornings. How little some things have changed! Some of what Wogan played has clearly seeped into my consciousness and remains with me to this day. I love The Carpenters (Karen's voice was pure honey!) and can also blame this period for my fondness for musicals - I remember having songs from Jesus Christ Superstar stuck in my head for days when I heard them played. I can't be arsed to do links to all the artists but songs from the early to mid '70s by people like The Detroit Emeralds, Kiki Dee, Helen Reddy, Glen Campbell and Gilbert O'Sullivan always remind me of getting ready for school.

I remember how grown-up I felt when I was allowed a radio in my bedroom to listen to as I read before snuggling down. I was largely a Radio Luxembourg guy, although thanks to my sisters' influence Radio Caroline would make an appearance from time to time. This was also the time that I discovered the joys of sports commentary on radio and developed my love for Test Match Special. I also clearly remember listening to England failing to qualify for the 1974 World Cup!

I've always kept a distance from the UK's "pop" channel, Radio 1, largely because it doesn't play the sort pf music I like to listen to. Over the years there've been exceptions, however. The late, lamented Friday Rock Show kept me out of the pubs for one night a week and "Into The Night" with Nicky Campbell was interesting if I was at home. I have conflicting memories of his being followed by Whispering Bob Harris and some Canadian (?) lady who used to go on at length about Moonbathing!

These days my radio habit is largely defined by Planet Rock (a whole station playing the music I love!) and Radio 5live for news and sport.

I can't imagine being without at least one radio in the house, particularly a digital model now I've been converted. Television I could fairly cheerfully live without - as long as I had radio!

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Blogger sim said ... (7:23 PM) : 

Its the background track to my life. It's always on somewhere.
Blimey, I used to live for Tommy Vance on a friday night.
Sarah Kennedy now wakes me gently in the morning.
I woke shocked one morning to hear Di's death on the radio. I listened as planes hit the twin towers .
No ,It's not dead . The younger generation just havent grasped quite how to appreciate it yet.


...but then that may be due to radio 1

 

Blogger Jane said ... (8:58 PM) : 

I grew up with Radio 4 in the background all the time, mostly because my parents weren't into pop music, my Dad liked the blues, Jazz and Opera.

So until I moved in with Simon I had radio 4 on almost all the time in my flat. Unless it was a Saturday afternoon then I would have Radio 5 on for the football.

I still prefer the Radio for many things as the news is denser in material as they have no photos to fall back on, the radio can do more interesting querkier programmes.

The Sunday lunchtimes of my youth were spent listening to reruns of The Goons and Round the Horne we were spoilt as children the younger generation haven't had the exposure poor things

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (12:58 AM) : 

I can't remember a time from my past when radio didn't play a huge part in it, like you.

I gotta tell ya though when the Carpenters came out I loathed them, I was young and stupid...thought they were saccharine sweet, and I was much too sophisticated/cool to listen to them, um, now, oh man, that chick could sing! My sister says that's the one true telling that we are getting old, "Because now the Carpenters sound good to us."

I loved Jesus Christ Superstar, and now that song is ripping through my head, but I love it so it's okay. xx

 

Anonymous Thursday said ... (9:31 AM) : 

I too grew up with the radio on - we had Radio 1 on at my house, my best friend's mother always had Radio 2 on. For the last few years, Radio 4 has been one of my best friends. Joe Brown doesn't have a radio in the kitchen which, to me, seems very, very strange and something I mean to rectify as soon as possible.

 

Blogger Doris said ... (7:02 PM) : 

So funny you bringing this up because just two days ago in the car with 14 year old son I asked him why he didn't have his telephone (with portable radio built in) and headphones so he could listen to the radio as we drove. "It's gay" he says in the young kids version of gay which has nothing to do sexual preferences and is a negative word. And there was nothing I could do to persuade him there were a lot of radio stations out there. I'm afraid I've killed the kids off radio with the brilliant Saga which was taken over by humdrum Smooth. Even I am getting sick of it with its excessive 80s/90s drivel instead of the wide range it used to play.

I discovered Planet Rock just the other day and had that on for a while, and a curious station called Bird Song. A station that does what it says on the tin. Bizarre.

As a kid I remember listening to a lot of Radio 4, especially Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy when it first came out. Brilliant.

 

Blogger I, still, ♥ the views said ... (12:44 PM) : 

I used to listen to Capital Radio on my alarm clock; there was a girl at school who used to bring her tranny in and listen to the chart show on Radio 1 at playtimes on the day they announced what the new number one song was

SP listens to Heart when we go into school in the morning. . .

 

Blogger jas said ... (12:27 PM) : 

Oh for the days of Radio Caroline, North Sea International and Luxembourg listened to under the bed clothes with my transistor to my ear.

Now it's Planet Rock for me too. Worst Half can't understand that I rarely even turn on the TV when he's not here, let alone watch it.

 

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Thursday, April 17, 2008

Outpouring

I'd almost forgotten what it was like but this came pouring out, very much as you see it, yesterday.

I had a post for here prepared yesterday and then closed my blog editor without saving or publishing it. I can't be arsed to try to resurrect it so I'll just note that I'm currently fielding so many "important" telephone calls I feel that I should be getting paid P.A. rates!


[Listening to: Drowning by All About Eve]

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Blogger Doris said ... (10:00 PM) : 

Good to see you have surfaced on the blogs. Poignant but ultimately upbeat prose there. And wonderful other poems ..... what a delight to read some of them.

(((Hugs dear, kind sir)))

PS I hope everything is OK with all the important phone calls?

 

Blogger I, still, ♥ the views said ... (12:49 PM) : 

"take love when you find it"

beautiful and just what I needed to read this morning

thank you

 

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Tuesday, April 08, 2008

The Longest Day

So. Yesterday came and went. I don't think that we forgot to pack anything for Younger Daughter except for family pictures which I'll get in the post to her ASAP. Everything else that she might want or need has gone with her - mountains of clothes and favourite toys.

An 8 o'clock start meant an early start for all of us. I couldn't get Younger Daughter to have any breakfast before we set off but was confident that she'd snack in the car if hungry. As it turned out in the whole journey, which we managed in 3 and a half hours, she had a couple of bags of crisps and a little drink. She was too excited by the journey itself. I'd almost forgotten how much she enjoys car travel over long distance.
in car

I'd been fine in the days leading up to yesterday. I was reassuring everyone else that Younger Daughter would be fine at her new school, that she'd thrive and prosper under the one-to-one attention she'd get. It's still true, I know she'll do well there. What I didn't reckon on was that she loves long-distance car travel so much when we drew up at the school and I got her out of the car and took her inside she started wailing and crying and lashing out at anyone who came near her. I didn't cope with this very well and as we set of for a tour of some of the school with one of the classroom assistants from Y.D.'s class I could barely see for tears and my voice was cracked and unreliable. The hardest thing I ever remember having to do was not break down completely in "tons of sobs". Sometimes a Dad just has to swallow his tears and keep going, y'know?

After looking in a few empty classrooms she wasn't calming down at all. It wasn't until we went in a room where a group of three of the kids were working with their class team that she quietened and seemed to show an interest. Seeing other students doing something that was, maybe. familiar from her previous school seemed to "trip a switch" somewhere in her mind. When we approached the main staircase to go and have a look at her bedroom she pulled me up the stairs by my hand before waiting calmly at the top for for the classroom assistant to catch us up.

Her room was decorated in the colours and fabrics that Wife and Elder daughter chose. There was only on picture on the wall but apparently the others that the school had ordered for her had arrived that morning and would go up that afternoon. A nice touch was a "Welcome" helium-filled balloon on her bed which Y.D. went straight for to start it bobbing in the air.
bed & balloon

The classroom assistant suggested that one of Y.D.'s toys might help to keep hr calm so I fished her favourite electronic musical toy out of one of her bags and she was all smiles and giggles. Carrying it, she was content to be led back down to her classroom, which by now had the other 3 kids in it. The laughing, singing and dancing with her toy continued until one of the other kids sat down closer to her than she wanted. A wave of relief swept over me when she ran to stand next to the classroom assistant for support rather than running to me. I couldn't think of a better moment to leave sp rather than make a big drama out it all I waved, gave the cheriest "Bye, babe. See you soon." that I could muster and walked out of the room, nearly breaking down completely on the rather startled Chief Bursar who had come down to take me to the Head Of Care's office to sign some paperwork. Luckily, they're used to parents being a little emotional when their kids start there and gave me a cup of tea (how very English!) and a tissue.

Half an hour later I was on the way home, leaving my littlest girl in a wonderful place with a fabulous bunch of people. Home to a house that's now far too quiet to try to hide the gaping hole in my heart from the rest of my family.

I know it's the right thing to do, but it's so hard...

I'm sure that things will get easier as time goes on.

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Anonymous Thursday said ... (3:47 PM) : 

You're a great Dad Stegbeetle, a really great Dad.

 

Blogger Doris said ... (3:58 PM) : 

Thank you for sharing but it is painful for me to read the words and I'm only in the far distance behind a desk and not even connected. Your poor heart.

Meanwhile, what an amazing place that you even got to choose YD favourite colours to have the room painted and decorated. How lovely and bodes so well as a caring place.

Hugs and ♥

 

Blogger Jane said ... (5:48 PM) : 

(((((((Steg)))))))

 

Blogger Chicka said ... (6:14 PM) : 

Greg, I wish I could heal that hole in your heart faster, so you didn't have to feel so badly.

I know it'll just take time. Hang in there, sweetie. You know who you can email if you want/need a shoulder.

 

Blogger Z said ... (6:48 PM) : 

Dearest Steg. *hugs* - nothing to say but to send my love.

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (12:29 AM) : 

Hugs from my part of the world too, a big old american bear hug.

 

Blogger Doris said ... (8:26 AM) : 

And now the first night has passed .... thinking of you.

Just try to keep talking about your feelings so that you can work through what is happening. But I should think you will also be kept quite busy with the packing?

(((Hugs to the Stegs)))

 

Blogger Julia Buckley said ... (9:35 AM) : 

Aw Steg, your actions show you're stronger than you think. Very brave of you to do what's best for her despite how hard it is. Sounds like a lovely school.
Jx

 

Anonymous Beki said ... (3:35 PM) : 

You know if I had an award to give you I would! As it is I just won't thrash you quite as badly at scrabble next time ;o)

YD is a very lucky girl to have you in her corner :)

 

Blogger Imperatrix said ... (8:51 PM) : 

What a difficult day it was for you. Crying is OK. As another commenter said, the fact that her room was personalized means a lot -- these people do care, as do you. Big hugs to you Steg.

 

Blogger Doris said ... (8:24 AM) : 

Another night has passed and it is now Thursday morning .... thinking of you.

((Hugs))

 

Blogger I, still, ♥ the views said ... (2:29 AM) : 

it is hard, but it will get better

and when you see a hole and think "it's not better" that's just cos for a while it's not gonna be

but next time, the hole will be a little smaller - won't it

and you know that the new space she will create for herself in her wonderful new home will be filling up bit by bit

and remember, if it's not alright, it's not the end - so have some more hugs to keep you going until then

(((((((((((((((((((((((steg))))))))))))

X

 

Anonymous Kitchen Witch said ... (12:07 PM) : 

The place sounds great, and I'm sure it's the right thing for you as a family, but I realise that doesn't always make it easier. I guess it'll take time for things to settle down, and during that time I would like to offer a large cup of tea and a tissue whenever you Britishly find you need it.

 

Blogger I, still, ♥ the views said ... (10:44 AM) : 

hugs for what might be a bit of a weird weekend

XXX

 

Blogger jas said ... (12:41 PM) : 

Emotional of couse, but brave as well to do what you have done for your daughter knowing that it is for the best.

Hope your weekend is not too empty and you can start to relax a little.

BTW it sounds a fabulous place to make so much effort over a room.
Big hugs from me too.

 

Blogger Ally said ... (7:34 PM) : 

I have only just caught up with you - you are fab, you know? A fab dad, a fab writer, an all round fab person.

*hug, tea, cake*

 

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Thursday, April 03, 2008

Landmarks

I was a little emotional yesterday. This is quite unusual for me as I'm usually able to keep quite a tight lid on everything for the sake of the rest of the family.

I've mentioned previously that Younger Daughter is starting at a new school, one that specialises in children with varying degrees of Autism, is "residential" and on the other side of the country. It's getting close now - she starts there on Monday.

Yesterday, I picked her up for the last time from the respite centre where she's spent a lot of happy times over the last (at a guess) 7 or 8 years. The times that she's spent with them have enabled us to go on for much longer than we would have otherwise. They've always tried to be flexible about bookings so that they could accommodate events that the rest of us wanted/needed to go to. Obviously with Y.D. spending 7 nights a month over there we've got to know some of the staff quite well and they've got to know her very well.

Yesterday when I was let in through the door, Y.D. was dancing with one of the ladies there whose eyes were brimming with tears. The staff had bought Y.D. and lovely soft, fluffy dressing gown as a goodbye present and prepared a photo album of her time over there for us. They'd had a party tea the night before and one of the other disabled lads who goes there had made a speech wishing my daughter good luck at her new school.

Nothing we could give them would adequately illustrate the thanks we feel for the times that they've had her over there. We've known that she was safe, cared for and happy there and have never had any reason to be concerned for her when she's been staying with them. As a token gesture of gratitude we got a "nice" box of chocs and a "thank you" card which I presented to one of the ladies as a representative of the staff in general. In response, she sprang up and threw her arms around my neck. For an instant I thought she was going to burst into tears! It was just another in the line of "last time I do this"s which we're going through.

I have a long journey to make on Monday and I don't just mean the miles on the road.

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Blogger Z said ... (8:07 PM) : 

Steg, dear, I will be thinking of you and all your family in the next few days. It will be a bigger rite of passage that I've ever made and I can't describe to you how much I respect you for the way you deal with what life throws at you. *big hug*, honey.

 

Blogger Chicka said ... (8:23 PM) : 

Sweetie, I wish I could be there to hold your hand and hug you all through it.

You're doing what you need to do - and that needs to be known deep in your heart. (I know you do - but, you know me... Capt. Obvious!)

Hang in there sweetie. You'll be fine.

 

Blogger hanneke said ... (9:36 PM) : 

Just wanted to say that I am extremely touched by what you and you're family are going through. Carers are to me the invisible heroes of society. I am amazed how little reward and recognition we give to people who care for and look after the vulnerable in whatever shape or form. just wanted to say good luck even though I know it sounds pathetic.

 

Anonymous Thursday said ... (9:04 AM) : 

Not sure what I can say that either hasn't already been said or that doesn't sound completely trite. Suffice to say, you KNOW you're doing the right thing for all concerned, difficult as it will be to do.

 

Blogger Mephitis said ... (12:52 PM) : 

Don't have anything useful to say, but wanted to you to know I've read it and feel for you. Best wishes.

 

Blogger Doris said ... (8:32 PM) : 

Oh my .... I can and then can't imagine such a journey. I am sure it will become one of many journeys (but I have yet to catch up elsewhere on your blog) but it slightly reminds me of the first day of nursery or school. But this IS very different.

Make sure you have plenty of tissues in the car. And you gotta be strong, until you are safely home.

((Hugs to you all))

By the way, in a small way.... each Sunday I drive my son over to my sister's house so that he can go to school there. I stay a day or two and then I drive home without him and am at home with Mr Doris and no children whatsoever until the Friday when he catches a train home. It is so strange not to have any kids at home but after a while some benefits start to show. Perhaps you can look forward to doing more with your other daughter and giving her more.

Hugs again.

 

Anonymous Cheryl said ... (8:08 PM) : 

I've put a 'problem' kid into boarding school before, with al the attendant mish-mash of emotions - guilt, heartache, and yet pleasure at room to breath. Turmoil I think you'd call it. The biggest head-game, I think, is the sensation of handing over the parenting reins under a whole heap of blind trust.

Not a PATCH on your situation of course; even if they hadn't excluded him it would only have gone on for a finite number of years, there was this sense of being temporary, about it.

Its going to be OK Steg, honestly. Its going to be wonderful for her, and you - well, like the first day at the infant school gates, you'll just have to wrap your head around it somehow - get over the guilt and the fear, because I am sure she is going to blossom. It'll all take time. This is a HUGE step.

But its all good; I really believe.

Good luck tomorrow - hugs and support. xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

Blogger Doris said ... (9:58 AM) : 

Thinking of you today on your journey ..... and what Cheryl says!

(((Hugs and hand holding)))

 

Blogger I, still, ♥ the views said ... (9:31 AM) : 

it will be ok in the end, and if it's not ok that just means it's not the end (yet)


have been thinking of you and your family masses, and send loads of hugs and smiles and some tears (it's good to sob sometimes) and stength and courage (not that you need much) and a small light for your darker moments (because you will have those)(but it's nothing to be afraid of)(it's only a moment)

and I hope very much you are looking after yourself

XXXX

 

Anonymous Kitchen Witch said ... (10:31 AM) : 

Nothing I can add, really, beyond wishing you the very best of luck for Monday, and sending large virtual mugs of whatever steaming beverage seems appropriate.

xx

 

Blogger Steg said ... (11:54 AM) : 

Thanks, ladies!

What a wonderful bunch of people you are. You're all a terrific support to me and have made this very difficult time easier.

Thanks again, one and all. Mwah!!

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (12:34 AM) : 

Ditto! xx

 

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Sunday, March 30, 2008

Procrastination

It's very easy to put off blogging when you haven't really got anything to blog about! It's been raining lots but today's been sunny. The kids are still on Easter holidays (which seem to be very long this year) and Younger Daughter starts her new school a week tomorrow.

Did I mention that we're moving too? Not out of town just to a rather more salubrious part of it. Allegedly, at least. We'll see. This means of course that we have to do the ghastly "packing" thing! I'm quite excited at the prospect of actually being moved but the whole "moving thing" scares the bejeezus out of me. We've been here about 8 years now (I think) and the amount of crap a family can accumulate in that long is frightening.

So as not to disturb her routine any more than necessary the actual packing won't be starting until Y.D. is at her new school. This should leave us the best part of 3 weeks to sort it all. The bigger problem is that items of furniture for the new house have already been bought and we need to fit them in here alongside what we already have until some of the older stuff can be unloaded. So space is at even more of a premium than usual.

This is a salutary lesson for me. I started out by saying I had nothing to blog about and then realised that I hadn't yet mentioned the move. I must remember that sometimes the best thing to do is just start an entry and see where the keyboard takes me. I'll try and be more regular in future. I'm still enjoying this blogging lark, believe it or not and through it have "met" some wonderful people!

[Listening to: Paint It Black by The Rolling Stones]

Comments on "Procrastination"

 

Blogger Z said ... (9:21 PM) : 

No news? Blimey, if I were moving house I'd have been banging on about it for weeks already. You are so laid back, Steg!

 

Blogger fineartist said ... (11:47 PM) : 

Z is a hoot, me too, me too, you'd all be so sick of hearing me lament the woes of moving, you'd be like, "Oh move already, for cripes sake." Heh.

I thought you guys had just built on a new addition?

And I sure hope you are either taking your dishwasher with you or you have one in your new home already. heh, yeah I'm obsessed with the damned modern convenience of having a dishwasher, and I'm not ashamed of it, went too long without one, it's running right now as I type and I can barely hear it, course the mp3 player is helping to drown it and the kids out, another modern convenience I just got for myself. This one is PINK, so my oldest son will not snag it from me, hehe.

xxxooo,

 

Anonymous Thursday said ... (8:34 AM) :